![]() As far as the narcissist is concerned, they’re not even in a real relationship at least not the way you perceive it. In the narcissist’s mind, relationships do not last. It’s important to recognize that the smear campaign against you has been going on for a while. It’s also worth noting that when the narcissist is hoovering you, they are hoovering other exes, too. ![]() However, once they figure out that you’re not falling for their tricks anymore, things are going to get pretty nasty. You are swept up in a whirlwind of attention as the narcissist tries to convince you that you have the most magical relationship ever. You may form the impression that they’re feeling remorseful and perhaps are seeing what a chance for true love (or a true relationship) they’re throwing away. These things might make it seem as though the narcissist really wants to get back together. They might contact you on your social media through bogus accounts that they’ve set up. They may call you from unknown numbers or start to email you through new email accounts. When the narcissist loses control over you, there’s usually a period of continued attempts to Hoover. Before I begin, if you’re new to my YouTube channel, please like and subscribe and hit the notification bell so you’ll be the first to find out whenever I upload a video. I want to talk to you today about what to expect when you’re no longer under the control of the narcissist. What can you expect? Let’s unpack this question. ![]() Tips for when you share custody with the narcissist.Examples of real-life scenarios where narcissists gained the upper hand (and how to avoid this).The twelve most common reactions the narcissist will engage in.What’s going on in the narcissist’s mind when this happens.In this post, you’ll learn how to navigate the narcissist losing control over you like a kung fu master. That’s when you will need to have a strong backbone and a strong support system as you move out of the orbit of your narcissistic partner.What should you expect when the narcissist can no longer control you? Will they finally see the light of day and do the just and rightful thing? Will they make fair arrangements regarding splitting up your assets? What is the narcissist thinking and how will they react? When you back away, narcissists are going to try that much harder to reel you back into their lives. Your devotion to the narcissist’s needs is a measure of the narcissist’s self-worth in their mind. If you are being used to prop up the ego of a narcissist, if you try to claim some space for yourself, the narcissist may feel that you are trying to strip away part of their own identity. They cannot comprehend the reasons that partners or friends need space and autonomy to feel satisfied in a relationship. Narcissists objectify people and use people to meet their own needs-they simply don’t understand how to maintain normal relationships. Narcissists have a very difficult time handling things when a partner or former partner has begun to create and enforce boundaries because narcissists cannot conceive that a partner could exist beyond the relationship. Find a therapist who understands narcissism.By being so out-of-touch with the realities of relationships, their reaction to the dissatisfaction of their partners is driven by fear. They are unable to fathom why a partner may be disappointed in their behavior or in the relationship. Their own self-assessment of their worth and value confirm to them that they are already significantly evolved and accomplished. ![]() Unfortunately, the ego of a narcissist is already so inflated that they never focus on self-growth when in relationships. The narcissist’s ego is the only protection they have from the world and when their ego integrity is breached, narcissists often respond in ways that seem markedly out of proportion to the circumstances for average people. A narcissist’s ego is an extremely fragile thing and when they feel they they are are being laughed at or is losing the respect of others, it can be tremendously upsetting. Narcissists are unable to tolerate failure of any sort and public humiliation is considered the worst type of failure that could happen. When a narcissist feels that they are losing face or failing at something in front of an audience, it creates a lot of psychological distress and cognitive dissonance. ![]()
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